I got the news that my mother suddenly died when I was with him. Please start another thread and continue the conversation. I have been married to my doctor husband for 36 years. What I meant was I'm wondering if it will get noticeably easier in terms of his schedule in the next few years and right after he finishes, or if it will always feel like this when it comes to being with someone in his profession. I am Roman Catholic so I believe almost the exact same things as a regular-non mobot- type mormon This religion Mormonism has a dual identity where some believers are closed mined fools. I appreciate your honest, and I really like the way you phrased things, particularly this sentence: Thank you for your comments. Im not sure whether he isn't ready for it to get any more serious than it is or that he cannot juggle my needs and his duties. It would likely be seen as a trial in her life. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church. So for anyone reading this - I completely agree with all your advice!.
Posts from people who have your same problem occur on a regular basis here on RFM. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Do what feels right. This insecurity is at the root of the princess syndrome. This I knew before we married and accepted. Even Mormon girls who marry non-Mormons want great dads for their kids, and they are oriented to having kids, sometimes many kids. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. Will he be happy knowing that you are giving up something of incredible importance to you. Well the pieces will all fall into place. Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you.
A couple of things I run into most is that people assume I am also Mormon. I decided to sort of play along because she was amazing and I didn't believe some of the things she was telling me she actually believed. In my view, baptism at 8 is just a variation on infant baptism. Unfortunately I've been sort of seeing a girl who is basically a real deal Mormon. Life is a journey and going through it with a true partner, and a mutual respect for curiosity, is so far greatly rewarding. I feel very sad sometimes but I try to stay strong. This is a very delicate territory, so tread carefully. Except his wife was and still is a witch. When she had a strict 6: If there was a disagreement, one person was supposed to submit to the other, consult a rulebook that covered almost everything, or turn to a church leader to decide for them. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious.
If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. I learned that going out and having fun with friends every single weekend was not going to be part of our lifestyle together due to time restrictions, tiredness, etc.
I never pressure him to spend time with me. Thanks again for the continued comments and replies to my edit.