It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. I have always been more driven by my interest in a career and pursuing an education. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. If your spouse believes in infant baptism, will you allow the children to have that. You just have to decide if the payoff is worth it. She won't marry you. You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. To prevent problems from developing in the marriage over in what faith the possible children should be raised. When we are together it is amazing he obviously has work that he takes care of when I am there but for the most part he tries his best to leave work at the office. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her.
I have been happily married to a non-mormon for 20 years. The extent of other physical activity depends on what you both want from the relationship, though in general the Mormon Church frowns on sexual contact even beyond intercourse. This guy was orbiting so strongly that he changed his religion before they were even dating. Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. Thank you for having this blog. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. The house is perfect, with nothing out of place. I wanted that full support though I am certainly not saying that marrying a Mormon ensures that. If he is the right person for me, then I would wait and deal with the busy schedule in the meantime. Life is suddenly wonderful, and you catch yourself smiling, humming, and happy all the time.
But thinking of the children I could not live with myself to do that. So there's THAT to look forward to. And if he loves you as much as you love him. God told me to marry my husband. Response to your edit: Do NOT bring up or mention anything that could be considered "anti Mormon. Expect that you will do the majority of parenting and attend school functions alone. I believe in temple marriage, and in the importance of those covenants. I won't want to start the whole process again just because its convenient for my partner. I learned that you have to weigh thes things out--is it someone you care enough about to wait for. I can't emphasize this strongly enough.
I don't mean to be rude, but she's not gonna give up her "nonsense". I can relate to this post. That will most likely be the deal breaker for her. It is highly likely that she will pressure you to convert, and if you resist, she may resent you for being the barrier to her being sealed to her children. We decided early on that having only one working parent was critical -- I am always the one that flexes to his schedule like it or notand staying home with our child enables me to do that.