It is tempting for Mormon girls to become lazy because they have such a high standard compared to typical girls. Perhaps I will have to start one. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. My mother now uses her time in saving stray dogs and helping the poor while my father is away which is everyday. That sentence strikes me as rather bizarre--it seems to be alluding to a causal link between academics and being "emotionally immature," as you put it. Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. Even if she does, you'll be the reason in her family's eyes. I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. Willl he build resentment at the struggle to get him to change whether real or imagined. This brings me to the thorniest bit: If your wife is Mormon, your kids will be expected to be Mormon.
There are many good things. And most of those end up with both people losing their faith or a divorce. This lack of inclusion within the general society makes them socially awkward, especially around men. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. One big question is, does he make you a priority when he has the time to be able to make something other than work a priority. I feel selfish to never be around but this is my dream so much so that I refuse to have children because I dont want my kids to have a workaholic mother who's never there. Know her limits on substances. Ask him if he's not seeing you to not commit. You will be able to best gauge where her beliefs stand in regards to the church if you listen to how she describes her mission. Should I jump ship.
If she was anything like me, that idea is probably foreign, radical, confusing, interesting, and inspiring to her. Not every LDS person does, unfortunately. I'm a first year medical student and met my boyfriend in college when he was in med school now in his residency. So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too. There is a difference between "I wouldn't want to be with someone who worked these hours forever" and "I am really unhappy and will be unhappy for the next three years. If you want him - he is part of a medical school package right now, and likely will be for some time to come. We have 2 school age children. Given the fact that doctors, esp surgeons, have a very busy life in US, it seems logical. We love each other very much and are each others support system. It's alot to understand if not raised and taught in it specifically.
Hence, ensure that the girl or guy you want to date is above 16; although with changing times, some kids may date younger, if your love interest is not keen on going out until 16, then hold off. Honestly, I have given up on lds men as a single 25 year old. You are the woman of valor eshet khayil sung about by Solomon in Proverbs 31 http: Good for you, good for your husband, and definitely good for your childen. It is an act of faith. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this.