I make significantly more money than he does as a resident, but I know that my job is secondary. Is it really worth it to give up what I want out of a relationship because its hard to balance studying which I understand is stressful and being with the person who makes you happy. I'd try to see if she will leave the religion, and if not, you should break it off. In her obviously orthodox Mormon paradigm dad's a bishop, she went to BYU and on a missionunderstand that she believes her husband must be an orthodox Mormon and get married to her in the temple. The closet is deep though I think that's seriously generalizing. The scriptures say that one of the main reasons good people don't join the church is because they just haven't been introduced to it. It is also considered disrespectful to others, as they may be uncomfortable because of your open displays. With all of this said, I wish I would have found your blog earlier. I've been married over 4 years to a 1st year GI fellow. Marriage is meant to be eternal.
We are doing long distance at the moment and I was wondering if you have any advice. Very wise words when tell others to take a very cold hard look at there life.
My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured. Well the pieces will all fall into place. Life is suddenly wonderful, and you catch yourself smiling, humming, and happy all the time. I let her know I'd been reading on LDS. Should one belief system or lack of one take priority and why. If you want to date a Mormon guy or girl, then the best way to meet singles is by visiting the Church. What a bozza topic. Topics like race and polygamy have been "adequately" explained away, so I don't think we'd get anywhere discussing those things. The point of a date is to get to know someone better. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way.
If it were me, I would be flattered they had that much time to spend on me. T-1yr for me T-2yrs for him. It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. You love a medical guy. She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands. Some of my family approves of my marriage and some does not. He knows that is a possibility. It is amazing how different values and outlooks, interpersonal relationships can be from family to family. A Mormon will tearfully and emotionally recite whichever lesson they need at the given moment.
However, you might be lucky to not have the experience I did. Those will make her think. There are billions of other girls out there who I wouldn't have issues like this with.