Don't tiptoe around the issue. All these are reasons to have some serious discussions. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. I am not a doctor's wife so I won't say I understand, but I will give you a virtual hug. If you really care and think this is the lifestyle you wanted then go ahead. How the Book of Abraham was translated from Egyptian scrolls. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. Mormon's view marriages outside the temple to be counterfeit and you can't get into the temple without converting to the religion. I feel as if my husband and I just live passed eachother. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other.
She is probably thinking she can convert you if she is with you long enough and is a good enough example. I know many other nurses that also married young docs, only to have the marriage fail. All that matters to her is things are how they are because god wants them that way. I also studied his advice for approaching and dating women. I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. I have missed the Church in some ways, and certainly the blessings of a temple marriage. I've moved to be with him for med school, then we moved again for residency and just moved again for fellowship. While Scientology is way worse hopefully the parallels will get her thinking. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. Marriage is meant to be eternal.
The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. This post and the comments are an eye opener. Her attempts to convert you will get stronger and stronger, if you make it clear to her that you will not under any circumstances convert, she'll bounce. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides. I have been pretty much a single mother most of that time. If they believe their religion, they will ultimately cause you pain and disappointment. Word to the wise, wait a day or two. If she is open to questioning her faith, perhaps she can chase you down. I was so incredibly supportive of him and his career. I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about all of this, because that's truly the only way to get to the bottom of it and make a decision for yourself.
I remember one time I did just that with a group of friends and someone saying, "Oh you have it so rough. I've been seeing a doctor for two years now. Keep your options open.