In childhood, that includes the majority. He's a big boy and can make up his own mind. She's most likely secretly playing out fantasies of converting you, marrying you in a Mormon temple, and having a very Mormon life, OP. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport. The important thing is that you are getting to know one another, not that you are always doing fancy things. And the longer you see her you won't be getting out of anything soon either. I really do have strong feelings for him and want to make this work… but I'm beginning to feel like I have no identity of my own anymore and I will forever just be, "the doctor's wife. Aw, glad I can help. It is not something that should be taken lightly. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture.
She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. He is not a member and has told me he is not going to convert.
She encourages me to develop my skills and talents, and provides an example in several of those areas. There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. Are they a functioning member in society. Would you rather give up the prospect of being married in the temple, the assurance of children being raised in the church, and parts of Mormon culture for your boyfriend, or a great man for your beliefs. Until our marriage, I was living a care free life when I would do things as I please. I don't think it's going overboard, though, to state one very possible and very likely scenario, and that is that this girl may likely be completely indoctrinated and believing. Today was my birhtday and my husband spent the whole day at work and all night working on his notes. I had to drive 2 hours alone - and spend the next day alone - bc his partner was out of town - and he could t leave 12 patients on the floor. I mean, I get where it comes from but it's so ridiculous. You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship.
I would go ahead and make boundaries with the conversation about kids and church, if that is your preference. Yeah man, don't doubt someone who was a missionary will try to convert you. Where does that leave me. How would that motivate you to work out every day to get a girl. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. I have seen love prevail over beliefs. For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. I decided to do the mormon thing and just not think about it too much right now.
But, you will probably lose. Dating a dr is hard. But I'm glad for all the advice I read on this blog.