If she identifies as a Mormon, then she probably takes her faith seriously, and it means a lot to her. The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change. The answer is, most emphatically, NO. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. My sisters married to the temple served a mission etcв. I let people assume what they will. Look for girls in your singles ward. We only live ten minutes from each other and he's probably too scatter-brained to remember to mail a kiss every day haha, but cute idea for LDRs. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct.
I had tears in my eyes and goosebumps while reading it. It is difficult to learn to have no expectations towards him, even though our mindset towards medicine is the same. Good thing is you can have multiple wives in heaven if you become exalted.
I've been thinking more about your situation and another thing came to mind. Your attempts at being funny or lightening the mood may backfire, and your date may be put off. I have been a doctor's wife for almost 2 years - and we have been together for about 7 years, since right before intern year. So it is going to be over anyway. You should take your cues from your partner, not from documentaries or this sub, on whether your partner's views and actions are manipulative, brainwashy and damaging. She needs to be, and maybe she will get there. It was actually causing more of a rift than bringing us together. If all the Mormons truly were the pricks we often claim them to be, then Mormonism would be the perfect punishment for them. Is it naive to think we could raise our children to fully participate in two different faiths. Perhaps it was just her personality but I find most doctors repulsive.
Don't let her try to bring in the missionaries to explain; remind her that she is an RM and knows all they do and probably much more. Then, do any of the above morsels of advice matter. I have done it many times and the repercussions are that they treat me very poorly, but th. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. Take a breath, stop and think, is it worth destroying so many lives so you can step in and take the rewards after someone else does the hard work. I feel very sad sometimes but I try to stay strong. Any advice from people who have gone through this would be awesome. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. So, I'm in a relationship with a 3rd year med student and we are trying to find a date to get married. But he has been great till now.
Being married to a doctor is no walk in the park. Is this a sign of my own weakness. I'd just like to add that unless you're happy being with her as a full believing Mormon, don't stick around in the hopes that she'll de-convert.