I have been married with a doc for 4 years, we have been moving every year due to his fellowship, residency and so on, i have been losing job opportinities and living with no families,friends around due to his career. MedPulse News App Stay on top of breaking news in your specialty and across medicine. I am hopeful and do feel some healing. Hi ladies, I'm looking for some advice. I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with him about all of this, because that's truly the only way to get to the bottom of it and make a decision for yourself. While reading the article I could actually picturize my near future. You have been blessed with the equipment to make such decisions. The right age for getting married varies depends for men and women. It's a less common occurrence, but it happens. Oh well, at least now I know.
It's definitely not an easy life. He needs a house that he can call home and a family that loves him. I know that she's even getting her stuff ready to go on her mission. If she is still Mormon and you are not, she will always secretly hope that you convert, just like you will always secretly hope she leaves the church. Mormonism is fundamental to my religious beliefs and my personal sense of identity, and it is the community that I identify with most strongly. I'm sorry you may be hearing a lot of negativity from us. I am dating a great guy who happens to be a very brilliant doctor going into residency very soon. No doubt that some will be valiant up on the other side of the veil, but just as sure there will others who will reject salvation because of their high mindedness. My surgeon husband of 12 years just made himself a "free agent" when he cheated on me and our three kids with a gal 12 years his junior. Things have worked out pretty well with us so far.
Save her and yourself more pain by ending it before you fall in love. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. So that may be the end of it there. The standard principles of day game apply. Her brain has been wired from birth by said cult. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own. Having seen many examples of the disaster it becomes when a member spouse pushes, coerces, ultimatums the non-member spouse into being baptized, I have very assiduously steered clear of those methods from the start. We can also save our errant children by our valiancy too. Thanks for the help.
I am married to an ER doc and agree that having your own life, being independent, and not going into the relationship with any preconceived notions is what makes it work for us. She is considered "an old maid" by Mormon standards, so she may be willing to marry you--hoping you will convert someday --but she will constantly be reminded that your marriage is inferior to the "Eternal Families" of sealed Mormons, and she will fear dying and never seeing her loved ones again.
To be honest; we're not couples matching pretty disparate specialties not conducive to couples matching but we're matching by geography, so I guess we'll have to wait and see if we're still together after the match: Well I guess you can always ask him for a little clarification etc. It would put him in a position of feeling less and being looked down on.