Edited 1 time s. That is the million dollar question. She will probably feel persecuted and attacked if you try. I would NOT want my daughter or son to marry a doctor. These are also only the American statistics. There will be pressure to go to church, marry in the temple, Yada Yada You will want to make sure you're ready to battle this for years, maybe a lifetime. But we only really get time together in the summer. I excused canceling plans, seeing each other only once a week, not being able to text much, etc. It will definitely take patience to work through any of this with her but it sounds like she's a pretty awesome person. Is it wrong not to.
Based on what you have written about your GF, my opinion is that you should cut your losses and move on. When you work this hard, you need to play hard. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. I adore the show New Normal and one of my favorite episodes is when Bryan decides to go back to church and the Father is so cool with him. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. I know you got a zillion replies, and I have not read them. I hope it all works out for you. The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year. I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. If you have children how will they be raised.
Hence the suspicious quotes around "adequately. Notify me of new posts via email. I'm so comforted by this thread. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. If you do, that's okay. We often wonder how we will pay our bills sometimes. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up. She has encouraged me to read LDS. You and your husband are truly a team, even though things are not always equal. Do not expect anything long term.
You should start raising CES letter issues with her and see how she handles it. I'll tell her that we are strictly friends for now on. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. The views expressed by individual users are the responsibility of those users and do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. I thought about those deeply spiritual moments I had had in life and how special they were to me.