Interested in getting a lapdance? We spoke to lapdance and stripper Ruby Winchester, who worked in a strip club in the US for four years. Here, Ruby reveals lapdance secrets and strip club confessions. Later on, I had my own dance studio but closed it down to move back home.
There was no dance studio that would hire me , because they thought I was going to take their students. We went and from day one I was hooked. Then my husband and I got into a position where we needed extra money and the pole studio was in the exact same parking lot as the strip club, so we thought 'why not? The club I worked at had a day shift and a night shift. For the night shift, I would get there between 6. We had to work at least four days a week. I'd change out of my regular street clothes The girls were on rotation.
I'd walk around the club, talk to a guy, flirt, initiate conversation so he'd want a private dance. Mood lighting. You give them the lap dance and no sex is involved. The club I worked at, this was an open area and behind me across the room would be another girl giving a lap dance.
I would always take my shoes off, walking around in 7 and a half inch platform stilettos for eight hours was horrible. I would open his legs up, put my hands down on the floor and do a handstand and up onto his lap".
So I would stay covered so guys would want to see what was beneath. The club has a fee you have to pay at the end of every night. The other girls were size zero. Most of it was lap dance money. There was always that one creepy guy though, that nobody wanted to deal with. You could literally see us trying to avoid him. But there were times where I would get uncomfortable. My first night, I was terrified. I was so scared I was shaking in my platforms.
But my release is performing, so when I was up on the stage, I was golden. My dad is a retired police officer, so growing up I was taught self defence. Once, this guy tried something, and he wound up on the floor with my heel on his neck. I was daring him to move, and the DJ was calling me to the stage because it was my set.
I always am aware I may need to protect myself, because according to most people, women who wear short shorts are asking for it. All women should have their guard up around men regardless of the situation.
But nothing is going in an orifice, and for most of the guys, you are essentially their therapist in a thong. His wife had passed away so all he wanted was communication. I just wanted to hug him. The more confident you seem, the more money you get.
Before, I was very shy. I watched one girl drag another through a dressing room. She broke out the pepper spray and we all got sprayed in the face trying to get her off. I had to go out there all swollen. The next day you can barely walk.
As soon as I was done with the set - obviously no one knew he was my husband - I walked up to him like he was a regular guy and went and gave him a lap dance. When we got back home I was about to get in the shower and my husband is bursting out laughing. We do not want your man. She does it because she loves it and wants other females to feel that empowerment and embrace their sexuality. Women should really take control of who they are. To me, dancing is a feminist act. Looking for your next favourite podcast?
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