Last year i met a wonderful neurosurgeon and within 6 months he told me he was in love with me. I think Bob, the answer can be found in your comment. The first time that happened could have been viewed as a warning sticker, and been your cue to exit stage right. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. I met this girl a while ago and we really hit it off. She's most likely secretly playing out fantasies of converting you, marrying you in a Mormon temple, and having a very Mormon life, OP. She still lives in her hometown though. Also, I want to be fully supportive of his dreams and what he wants to become. I know after residency he would choose a flexible job which would allow for the most family time. Learned by me in time and tears.
Now, lest you look at this all and say, "sheesh, go to counseling.
Mormon theology is peculiar, yes, but the media frequently takes things out of context and misrepresents the religion. Much of it rang true back when my spouse was in med school, internship and residency. No doubt that some will be valiant up on the other side of the veil, but just as sure there will others who will reject salvation because of their high mindedness.
Luckily, this seems to work out. But I do want to be with him. If you do manage to break her away from the church, her family will be there to continue sowing doubt. That is the million dollar question. To his defense, when we were great, we were great. He's been in the medical field for over 16yrs and I didn't have a problem when we were dating 6yrs ago but since he proposed 2yrs ago I've been feeling very unsecured. I am dating a wonderful man, amazing. I married a non-member over 20 years ago. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. Certainly not my husband.
Her Religion is more important than you will ever be Her Religion comes first and deep down, she will come to hate you for not accepting joining her religion. When you said that the doctor spouse sacrifices for their patients and their family sacrifices for the doctor's career, it really described my situation. It's easy to be blind to deal-breaking faults when you are young and in love. Love is what we do, not what we feel. I gave her a piece of my mind as my home is much happier and healthy now then when I was married to my x. No hatred, bigotry, assholery, misogyny, misandry, transphobia, homophobia, racism or otherwise disrespectful commentary. But can't he send me a text just once a day or every few days to let me know he's thinking of me. Is this a sign of my own weakness. She is instructed to have children within wedlock very soon, raise these children in a Mormon home, and devote hours each week to church activities plus Sabbath observance on Sunday. As a non-Mormon male widower Catholic contemplating marrying a devout temple recommended widow, I thank you all for the wonderful blog.
Do you have any specific suggestions for discussion about content on LDS. My wife and her family are a good example of this. I worked my butt off and supported our family through internship, residency and two fellowships always looking forward to the day when he would finally be in practice and things would get 'easier". The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality.