So for anyone reading this - I completely agree with all your advice!. Neither of our children ever considered medicine as a career after seeing how much their dad missed out on. You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. The way he wanted to live his life, the family he wanted to have, the wife he dreamt of- matched the type of person I longed for. Usually, when Mormon girls marry non-Mormon men, these women forsake their religion and revert to ordinary American woman. If you do manage to break her away from the church, her family will be there to continue sowing doubt. I feel to say, if you hear this, Amy, in time, it will all come round right. In areas with lots of single Mormons of dating and marriageable age, the Church has established singles wards. I was recently married to my husband in the Twin Falls, Idaho temple for time and all eternity. The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen.
And the longer you see her you won't be getting out of anything soon either. From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character. Hi, I'm from South Africa. Having said that, I believe strongly that it takes a special individual who can remain active in the church and have a non-traditional marriage. He's so used to me saying that I sometimes wonder why he even has to ask. I have no idea if he stayed. Anybody dating him is going to need to understand that, and that it has to come first. There is no freedom to think, no freedom to speak your mind, and no freedom to do anything that 'the brethren' say not to. I thought about those deeply spiritual moments I had had in life and how special they were to me. She will introduce you to the church.
But wait a minute. I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. You really don't know how great you have it. Unconditional love, excellent communication, and unwavering support. Doctors aren't always the greatest finds. The fact that she is dating an atheist non-Mormon shows pretty serious lack of conformity already. There's no way a TBM is dating you if she knows about your Lucifer kick. There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. We agree on honesty and kindness, it doesn't matter what inspires us to pursue that. I'd love to hear from more veterans about how to make this work in the long run.
I've been working like crazy myself, so it is easy for me to understand time issues involved in drs' training. I could imagine all these nurses throw theirselves at him regardless he being in a relationship with me. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature.