This is because if your relationship gets serious and you guys get married, then she may have to forgo many of the customs of her religion. It seems to me like you are walking into a relationship where there is a significant disconnect from the start. I am married to an interventional cardiologist. I also expected that my spouse would be temple worthy and that I would get married in the temple, which was not the case. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. My life may not be as stressful as that of a medical resident or a doctor, but I do often spend upward of 70 - 80 hours per week working. It MAY be true that a year in, her shelf will crack and she'll leave with him. We haven't been on holiday in years first because of no money as he was studying while in worked. Now the Pew survey only took into account self-identification, i. She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations.
And frankly, you feel like such a loser. Married men should not reach out to vulnerable women who buy their story of being lonely bc they are married to a woman who should have been a librarian. He fit me- does that make sense. Oh well, I'll just pretend she's not mormon and see what happens. The closet is deep though I think that's seriously generalizing. Life After Mormonism Chat. I knew going into this it would be difficult, so I've braced myself, but I'd be lying if I didn't say there's a lot of disappointment that comes along with the relationship. I have believed in for better for worse but I cant do it any longer. So I came across this post and I was wondering if you ladies could give me some advice. Narcissism, androgyny, obsession with pop cultureвthe problems with Western women go on and on.
They took an oath and it is who they are. Thank you so much for your comment. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. I am emotionally mentally and heartily attached to him. While doctors start off with 6 figures right off the bat, they also have 6 figures of debt under their belt. That's our best option. Hey, thanks for the info. If you and she are sealed in a Mormon temple, your children will be can be sealed to you. He stated he is in his 30's and established, and incapable of changing…. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you.
I figured he may still be finding his feet in his residency and as we grow closer, he might start putting in more effort. I hated it so much, in fact, that I ran off to China. Are they a functioning member in society. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love. As you can see Also, the fact that she served a mission is evidence of her dedication to the religion.