I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. It sounds like you have found a good one. That being said, no matter what the cause, I wasn't getting what I needed out of it and I had to make the decision to either keep things the status quo or move on. I decided to do the mormon thing and just not think about it too much right now. I wouldn't just start bringing up the ces letter and the problems in it. Most couples who are married where one is a Mormon and the other isn't, usually stems from a situation where they both were married in the temple, then one of them lost their faith sometime after that. So I feel like we have to wait yet another year just for the daunting part of it to start. Drinkers tend to rely on drink before they can have fun. You guys sound like you have a great and committed relationship - a true jewel in this world. If you are only after non-serious dates and spend a great time, you should be fine with this set up.
You should certainly still date even if you are not looking for a marriage partner. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. All of my siblings who married in the church 1 discussed getting married on the first date 2 were engaged within two months, and 3 were married within six months. There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. When he comes home he's so exhausted and just wants to veg out and this leaves me alone again. Talk about issues with Jehovah's Witnesses etc. This is not to say that I need to be the center of attention all the time, but just that I think all the time spent alone makes it more difficult to connect with each other. March 18, Run for the hills. Forty plus years later I met my incredibly wonderful fabulous Mormon husband. I remember one time I did just that with a group of friends and someone saying, "Oh you have it so rough.
I'll keep being me and we'll see what happens. Don't fall in love with a married man. Unless you have some super amazing other dating prospect there isn't a huge reason to cut this relationship off now. It gets better towards the later part of the whole deal, but it's always going to be kind of crazy busy. I wanted that full support though I am certainly not saying that marrying a Mormon ensures that. Dozens of missionaries have told me that the gender ratios in other countries are far, far worse. Having said that I'm not looking to get married any time soon, so no. I hate to say it, but I don't see this ending well. Good to see that I'm not alone. Between kids and his work and his being asleep in the living room chair, there is no communication.
I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons. Always know the hospital and patients come first-it is just a given. There is no way out, either I need to continue to sacrifice myself or get out of this relationship. Probably, not Mount Meadows level, but be prepared to have to apologize on her behalf a lot.