What upsets me most is that he didn't realize it was my birthday, or a big one and then that his reaction was to get defensive about his plans rather than offer an alternative for celebrating with me. Of course I feel slighted at times, but I check myself and remember that my SO is doing his best given all his demands. I'd love to hear from more veterans about how to make this work in the long run. Girls aren't socially required to be missionaries, unlike men. Let them see the good in you, and believe that their son or daughter has found a good match. And the nonmember spouse may just put pressure on the member spouse to spend more time with them. Married men should not reach out to vulnerable women who buy their story of being lonely bc they are married to a woman who should have been a librarian. From someone else in the medical field - a nightly phone call would be seriously draining, even if it only lasted a few minutes. My experience has been that personal similarities and differences are a bigger element than cultural differences. But we'd like to have children soon, so I'm looking forward to reading through the archives of your blog to see how you've made it work.
She asked me the other night how it's possible for me to be such a good person when I don't believe in god. I have many friends and members of my family who married within the church and later divorced. We love each other very much and are each others support system. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. Oh, yeah, and this girl belongs to a verifiable cult. Marriage is meant to be eternal. Find someone who isn't part of a cult. You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. Or the links, in that first vision one. I learned that you have to weigh thes things out--is it someone you care enough about to wait for.
I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. Even if he just has a weekend free, getting away, just teh two of us, helps so very much. She might not realize how important it is to compromise. I am emotionally mentally and heartily attached to him. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. How to Win Over a Guy. If you don't want to give up, then don't. I'm grateful that my husband is not the OCD controlling type that others are complaining about.
I would probably suggest that you cut your losses now. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him. There's a picture of the magic rock he found while digging a neighbor's well. I learned how truly very Mormon I really am, to the deepest part of my soul.