An 8 minute long orgasm? Finally, I had somewhere to start my search. But less than 24 hours later… I was pissed off and dissatisfied. There had to be a secular way to figure this out. Enter problem 2. But, with that research combined, I did ultimately figure out how you can have non-ejaculatory orgasms without any eastern mysticism. The PC muscle ejaculation muscle for our purposes is located right behind your balls and before your anus.
During the practice, work yourself up to a peak somewhere around a The idea is to become extremely aware of how close you are to ejaculating. I found that using porn when practicing pulled me out of the experience too much, and I lost awareness of where I was on that scale. To have non-ejaculatory orgasms, you need to train your body to separate the experience or orgasm and ejaculation. Once you feel this happen, everything else will feel x more possible. Work yourself up to a peak, and bring yourself down.
Up and down. Even when you do it right, some cum might leak out, or you might have one small squirt. Good work! Which is why we need…. It will be extremely brief and not incredibly pleasureable. Womp womp. The best way to do that is to keep having them. You can also try changing how you do your kegel squeezes. I find the long hard squeeze most effective, but for some guys a few medium length squeezes or a bunch of very quick ones are better. What if you could chain together and extend NEOs the same way women extend their clitoral orgasms?
That was the question that led me to the abs-destroying orgasmic intensity that David Asprey alluded to. Normally, we think of an orgasm as a point in time, something that happens to you. Orgasm is the same. The spasms, contractions, and mental pleasure of an orgasm will all be there, just with different intensity.
Shift the focus to the head of your penis, and use a fast stroke to keep yourself right against that edge. You should be able to quickly get to the NEO peak again, and when you do, just do the same thing and immediately try as hard as possible to have another one.
As you keep doing this, the gaps will get shorter and shorter until you manage to keep yourself right in that orgasmic state between the successive peaks. Do the thrusting, leg twitching, thrashing, etc. This is the same principle I talked about in the article on lasting longer in bed: if you smile, you make yourself happier.
Keep your eyes open like before, and keep stroking to keep yourself right against that no-return threshold. Then consider signing up for my Monday Medley newsletter. It's a collection of fascinating finds from my week, usually about psychology, technology, health, philosophy, and whatever else catches my interest. I also include new articles, book notes, and podcast episodes. Until a few months ago, I was insanely jealous of women. We get one 5 second sticky white crotch-sneeze, followed by an intense desire to nap. You Might Also Like Kegel Exercises for Men.
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